“I am convinced that life is 10% what
happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in
charge of our attitudes.” – Charles Swindoll
We may not be able to change what has happened to us thus far in
life, such as our biological parents, or other factors, which have influenced
us. We can’t control many of the things, which happen to us in life. We can,
however, control how we respond to what happens to us. Personal skills,
competencies, and worth can be improved regardless of age or position. Far too
often, failure is blamed on external circumstances: other people or things beyond
our control. But that is rarely the case. There are just too many people who
continue to overcome diverse circumstances.
An old adage still remains true—"If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you are probably right."
Raymond Albert "Ray" Kroc was considered to be an
aging high school dropout who failed at almost everything he ever did. At age
52, he decided to try again and developed what is now the McDonald’s empire.
Sam Walton opened his first store (a Ben Franklin variety store)
in a small town of about 7,000 people. It was losing money and he bought it
with $5,000 of his own money and $20,000, which he borrowed. Within five years,
he had reached his goal of turning a profit, only to be refused renewal on his
lease and forced to sell. His next venture was to open another store, Walton’s
Five and Dime. This was the beginning of the greatest retail success story in
history. Sam Walton created Wal*Mart, the largest chain of discount stores in
America.
There are many other examples of individuals who overcame
seemingly insurmountable obstacles to achieve worldwide acclaim, of leaders who
took their companies to positions of global dominance in the face of fierce
competition. There are even more examples of those who gave up, threw in the towel,
and failed. It’s easy to blame others, or the environment, or the economy, or
to rationalize ‘why’ it wasn’t their fault. If circumstances are not the
determining factor, what is?
Too many people hold themselves in lower self-esteem than the
actual facts warrant. Bad moments and past mistakes tend to make a deeper
impression on our memories than our past successes. Many people tend to think more
often of where and how they have failed, rather than where and how they have
succeeded. Thus, many people tend to view themselves as less capable than they
actually are. Another problem is that many have never learned the importance of
self-love. The awkwardness with which some people accept compliments
illustrates this fact. They often allow minor imperfections to color their view
of themselves, resulting in a low self-image. To build a self-image on anything
less than self-love, is to build on a hopelessly weak foundation.
With
these thoughts in mind, begin to imagine the difference you would make in
enhancing the self-image of others if you thought more frequently in terms of
their strengths and implemented a system and recognition program focused on
their achievements, rather than on mistakes and failures.
How much easier would it
be to implement a change process if everyone viewed himself or herself in a
positive light?
What would happen to productivity if everyone thought more in
terms of their unlimited potential rather than their limitations? You could
have a powerful influence on the growth and achievement of everyone with whom
you work!
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